Its Monday once again and here’s another reason to rejoice: Abu Huraira RA reported the Messenger of Allah SAW as saying:
“The Gates of Paradise are not opened but on two days, Monday and Thursday. And then every servant (of Allah) is granted pardon who does not associate anything with Allah except the person in whose (heart) there is rancour against his brother. And it would be said: Look towards both of them until there is reconciliation; look towards both of them until there is reconciliation; look towards both of them until there is reconciliation.”
– The Book of Virtue, Good Manners and Joining of the Ties of Relationship (Kitab Al-Birr was-Salat-I-wal-Adab)’ of Sahih Muslim.
Let’s make ourselves eligible to get Allah’s pardon by not associating Him with anything, as well as to not hold any negative thoughts or emotions towards other people.
Forgiving requires us to look at the person who has hurt us in a new way. Asking for forgiveness demands that we confront the past, admit our mistakes and attempt to change our behavior. Both acts are not easy, but they are indeed possible.
Here are some tips for forgiveness:
- No act is unforgivable.
You may think you have done too much wrong and it’s better for you to leave silently instead of asking for forgiveness. However, do remember that sins between you & Allah, He can forgive but sins between you & fellow humans can only be forgiven by them.
If you are the one who has been wronged, soften your heart by reading these few lines from the Qur’an:
“Those who control their anger & are forgiving towards people; Allah loves the good.” (Ali Imran 3:134)
“The good deed and the evil deed cannot be equal. Repel (the evil) with one which is better (i.e. Allâh ordered the faithful believers to be patient at the time of anger, and to excuse those who treat them badly), then verily! he, between whom and you there was enmity, (will become) as though he was a close friend.
But none is granted it (the above quality) except those who are patient, and none is granted it except the owner of the great portion (of the happiness in the Hereafter i.e. Paradise and in this world of a high moral character). (Al-Fussilat 41:34-35)
- Allow love to triumph.
As much as you think that the hurt was too much and the person does not deserve a second chance, it also helps to remember that you are human too. We are influenced by shaytaan, & our nafs, and had it not been for Allah’s Help, we could have easily faltered. Hate the act, but not the actor.
“Let them forgive and overlook. Do you not wish that Allah should forgive you? Indeed Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.”(Al-Nur 24:22)
- Forgiveness does not mean losing.
Often people think that forgiving, or giving in, is a sign of weakness. Yet it is the direct opposite! In one Hadith, the Prophet SAW said that Allah has commanded him about nine things; one of them he mentioned was “that I forgive those who do wrong to me.”
Lastly, we should always remember that as much as we are in need of Allah’s forgiveness for our sins and mistakes, we must also practice the act of forgiving those who did us wrong.
May Allah grant us all the ability to forgive, and allow us to be eligible for His Forgiveness insyaAllah. Have a blessed week ahead everyone!
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